What Not to Say to Men too Soon
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These are topics that you do not want to bring up early on in a relationship. These are conversations that could scare men off before they get a chance to know you.
1. Don`t talk about marriage - Men may become scared off if you bring up the subject of marriage too soon. Get to know him first and decide if he is even someone you would want to marry. Remember, men do not want to feel pressured into getting married. Take things slow and eventually the topic will come up.
2. Don`t talk about how you are ready to have children - Men associate women wanting to have kids with women wanting to get married right away. It is okay to express your love for kids and to mention that you want to have children in the future. Just make sure you don`t say you want to have children as soon as possbile, this will make men run.
3. Don`t talk about moving in together - Men like women who are independent so do not talk about moving in together after only a few weeks or months of dating. Living together is a big committment and may scare some men away. Take your time and let the relationship progress naturally.
4. Don`t qualify every statement as "we" - Be your own person and do not feel the need to make every statement or situation into "we". Men do not like women who lose their identity and cannot do anything on their own.
5. Don`t say I love you - Do not tell men "I love you" after only a few weeks of dating, this will definitely make them run. Take your time and make sure he feels the same way before saying "I love you". Men like to take dating slow and saying "I love you" is a very serious and heavy statement. Sit back, relax and let the men say "I love you" first, then you know it is safe to say it.
6. Don`t sound like you are looking for someone to support you financially - Men like women with a career who can support themselves financially. Men will be turned off by women who only like them because they have money. Do not tell men that you want to be a housewife because this could make them feel like you don`t want to work and they have to support you.
7. Don`t talk about your Ex too much - Men do not like to hear about how great your ex-boyfriend was and they also do not want to hear about what a jerk he was. You can talk about past relationships without getting too detailed too soon. It is okay to tell men about past relationships but do not focus on them too much, be brief.
8. Don`t talk about your problems/issues - Do not tell men about all of your problems or how much your life sucks when you first meet them. Men like women who are positive so don`t tell them everything that is wrong with your life. Tell men the good things about yourself and your life, this is what they want to know.
9. Don`t talk about family problems/issues - Everyone has family issues but men do not like to hear how messed up or dysfunctional your family is right away. Too many family issues can scare men away. Again, be brief when talking about family problems and do not get indepth too quickly.
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